For men who date
Not getting matches? Your profile was never the whole problem.
The man behind it is. Fix the Man is for men dating on apps like Hinge, Tinder, and Bumble (and off them) who've tried the better photos and the sharper openers and still get passed over.
The free 2-minute quiz opens soon.
The free Introduction, most of Chapter 1, and the Five-Photo worksheet are coming soon.
Coming soon to Amazon · Paperback, ebook, and workbook
Sound familiar?
You've done the work on the surface. It still isn't working.
You've tried the better photos. The sharper openers. The advice that promised the right line would change everything. It didn't, because your profile was never the whole problem. The man behind it is.
I know, because I was that man. I spent years performing for approval, dressing to disappear, and swiping for hours hoping the next notification would fix how I felt. Nothing changed until I started fixing myself.
Fix the Man starts with the inside work, builds the foundation most men skip (body, style, home, and money), and only then gets to the apps and the date itself.
No lines. No tricks. No games.
Dating is a mirror. This book is about the man standing in front of it.
Find out which part of the mirror to work on first. The free quiz opens soon.
Where most men start
Your profile, and where to meet women.
The Five-Photo Framework
"Think of your profile as a five-photo story. Each image shows her something different about who you are and what it might feel like to spend time with you."
- Trust
- Identity
- Full body
- Social
- Action
The free Five-Photo worksheet is coming soon.
The Shared Ground Principle
"The place where you meet a woman is a preview of the values, habits, and inner life she's likely to share with you."
Part Four covers in-person dating, from where to meet women to the date itself.
See all four parts →What's inside
Four parts. The order matters.
Part One
The Man in the Mirror
The inside work. Your mindset, the old patterns you didn't choose, and how to take rejection without letting it define you.
- Ch 1The Dating Mindset
- Ch 2From Wounds to Weapons
- Ch 3Rejection: Turning No Into Fuel
Part Two
The Foundation
The outside work most men skip: hygiene, fitness and food, style, your home, and your money.
- Ch 4Hygiene: Your Ticket In or Out
- Ch 5Move, Build, Fuel
- Ch 6Style: Dress to Command
- Ch 7Your Place and Your Money
Part Three
Online
Being authentic when every instinct says to perform, a profile that looks like your real life, and using the apps like a tool instead of a slot machine.
- Ch 8Be Authentic
- Ch 9Your Profile: Photos and Bio
- Ch 10Apps and Messaging
Part Four
In Person
Where to meet women, the date from the ask to the follow-up, humor, connection, and intimacy, with her comfort setting the pace.
- Ch 11Where to Meet Women
- Ch 12The Date
- Ch 13Humor
- Ch 14Connection
- Ch 15Intimacy: The Two Doors
Plus the Conclusion: The Man Who Isn't Finished.
Tools you'll actually use
Ideas and tools from the book
The Selector's Posture
Stop auditioning for approval. Start asking whether she fits your life. Not arrogantly. Honestly.
The 60-Second Pre-Game Lock-In
Recall what's true about you before you open the app or walk into a room.
The Fifteen-Minute Rule
Fifteen minutes a day on the apps, then close them.
It's Filtration, Not a Verdict
The Ten-No Challenge proves to you that rejection is survivable.
The Evidence Principle
The way you live when no one is watching is the most honest information she'll ever get about who you are.
Authenticity Beats Performance
The man she wants to meet is the one you keep hiding.
The Opener Formula
Observation, plus a specific reference, plus a playful tone. Show her you actually looked.
The 90-Day Contract
Don't judge the process before Day 90.
Free 2-minute quiz · Coming soon
What's holding back your matches?
Better photos and openers didn't fix it? Find out which part of the mirror to work on first. Ten questions, about two minutes. When it opens, you'll see your result right away, with the chapters and workbook exercise to start with. No email needed.
The companion workbook
Built to be done, not just read.
Fix the Man: The Workbook (8.5 x 11, 102 pages) follows the book chapter by chapter: the audits that show you where you actually stand, the contracts that turn good intentions into commitments, the 30-day workout plan, a weekly meal template, trackers, and the 90-Day Contract that carries you through the stretch where most men quit.
Get both: the book and the workbook, made to be used together. Get the Book →
What this book is, and isn't
Practical. Respectful. Honest about the work.
It is
- Practical and step by step
- Respectful of the woman across the table
- Honest about the work and the messy middle
It isn't
- Pickup lines or scripts
- Tricks or games
- A way around a no
"Her comfort sets the pace. Nothing in this book is about getting around a no."
Not medical, psychological, or financial advice. Where the book uses numbers, the Notes say where they came from.
Advance reader team
Want to read it before it launches?
I'm putting together a small advance reader team. You'll get a free digital copy of Fix the Man before it's out.
My one ask: if you read it, please leave an honest review on Amazon once it's live, whatever you thought. The copy is yours either way.
Close friends and family: thank you, but please don't review it. Amazon doesn't allow it.
Join the team
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Questions
FAQ
Is this a pickup book?
No. No lines, no tricks, no games. Nothing in it is about getting around a no.
Will this help if I get zero matches?
It's written for that guy. Chapter 1 starts with me opening an app after a long day to zero replies. Chapter 9 rebuilds your photos and bio, Chapter 10 covers the apps and messaging, and Part Two builds the foundation underneath. No book can promise matches, but it gives you a clear place to start this week.
Is it only about dating apps?
No. Part Three covers dating apps (Chapter 10 talks about Hinge, Bumble, and Tinder by name) and your profile. Part Four covers in-person dating: where to meet women, the date, humor, connection, and intimacy.
I'm already working on my profile. Is this still for me?
Yes. Chapter 9 covers photos and bio. The book just doesn't stop there.
When and where does it come out?
Coming soon to Amazon in paperback and ebook, with a companion workbook. Check back here for launch news.
Coming soon to Amazon
Fix the Man
The free quiz and Chapter 1 sample are coming soon.
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